My Weekend Insight – 27th September, 2025
Raising a Generation in Today’s World
First of all, let me take this opportunity to congratulate my good friend, Mr. Owen Kiconco, and his bride, Ritah, on this special wedding day. May you enjoy your marriage with all of God’s blessings that add no sorrow.
Lately, I’ve come across many articles and videos warning modern parents against raising “entitled” children. The argument is that we are too generous with love, too available or not available, and too quick to provide what our children want. While there may be elements of truth in this, I believe parenting is more than that. In my opinion, depriving your child from accessing what you never received is not the best parenting formula.
Children are gifts from God. He alone knows their future. Our role is to encourage, mentor, and provide the best we can. But here is a truth we must embrace: even with all our effort, some children will rebel. They will make mistakes, just like some of our brothers, sisters, and relatives once did. Life itself will shape them, humble them, and teach them lessons we cannot.
That’s why I emphasize: parents, do not blame yourselves endlessly. If you have loved, guided, and invested in your children, you have done your part. Beyond that, the world will receive them as they are, and God’s grace will take them further.
My fellow parents, do not lose yourself in parenting. Yes, invest in your children’s education, feed them, clothe them, and mentor them — but also invest in yourself. Go out sometimes, eat that pork, and enjoy life. Buy yourself good shoes, a nice shirt, or a decent dress. Parenting does not mean abandoning self-care.
Even more importantly, prepare for your own retirement. This generation may not support us the way we support our parents. Just look around — in a family of ten siblings, you might find maybe one or two who care for their parents, while the rest are caught up in their own lives. Let us not assume our children will automatically be our pension.
As we invest in them, let’s also invest in our own future — in savings, land, retirement plans, and friendships that give us joy. That way, we will not grow bitter or dependent, but can age gracefully knowing we played our part.
Parenting is a journey of both pride and pain, sacrifice and joy. Every generation thinks the next one is lost, but many rise and flourish in their time. Let us keep planting seeds of faith, love, and resilience. Some fruits may come late, but they will come.
Let me end with this amazing Bible quote:
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)
Sabiiti Herbert
Young and Flourishing